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01 August 2010 @ 07:36 pm
*sigh*  
Done with "family" stuff. I may post in more detail later, if I feel up to unraveling the whole mess for your consumption. For now, I'll just say

1) I love my mommy, and it was lovely to see her.

2) I really, really did not miss that constant refrain from childhood: "Are you always this quiet? Just hang around with us; we'll fix that." Like there's something desperately wrong with me, and it needs repairing as soon as possible. Why are other people so freaked out by my sitting there and not bothering them? Why is it so important that I be like them?
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viomisehuntviomisehunt on August 2nd, 2010 05:42 am (UTC)
I really, really did not miss that constant refrain from childhood: "Are you always this quiet? Just hang around with us; we'll fix that." I'm usually one or the other: too quiet or too talkative.

Not into family function. Like pictures, letters, cards, even the occasional phone call, but family reunions are just too awkward.
tempestsarekind: books and flowerstempestsarekind on August 2nd, 2010 10:16 pm (UTC)
I'm not that great around strangers to begin with, but strangers I'm supposed to have something in common with just because we share DNA--that's even worse! I can understand why people with close ties to family would want to go to family reunions to catch up, but I'm not sure why my mother insists on going to these things, since she seems perfectly content not to have anything to do with her extended family for the other 51 weeks of the year. :)
viomisehuntviomisehunt on August 3rd, 2010 01:29 am (UTC)
My mom is extremely social. My grandmother was an visual artist and writer although she enjoyed modest recognition. She performed a little in the post war years at local venues --an old style blues singer! Then there's me -- writer, painter; These things just are not group projects.
Mom likes to perform, sing, play piano, cook, decorate, give parties, reunions. She sees opportunity to show her gifts -- none of which I share. Well I can play piano and sing -- had lessons even, but never quite generated a love for performing. And parties and reunions --Okay-- I don't HATE it, but it is just not my thing. If I get out I have a good time, but it' nothing I want to do every weekend -- although I loved partying/clubbing with the girls when I was younger.
But planning or hosting an event -- Mum sees, as I said, an opportunity to shine. I see a list of chores! (smile)
tempestsarekind: books and flowerstempestsarekind on August 3rd, 2010 07:05 pm (UTC)
I think my mom is projecting onto me, a little: she sees herself as someone who's shy and quiet--or at least someone who has had to work to learn not to be--and she doesn't really like that about herself, so she doesn't want me to be that way. But I don't mind! And my hobbies are things like reading and writing: not exactly group activities, as you say.